Gerda Lerner: We can learn from history how past generations thought and acted, how they responded to the demands of their time and how they solved their problems. We can learn by analogy, not by example, for our circumstances will always be different than theirs were. The main thing history can teach us is that human actions have consequences and that certain choices, once made, cannot be undone. They foreclose the possibility of making other choices and thus they determine future events.

Ok Most of the rest of the world does not know this day as the National Coming out day but I do. For many years I lived my life as a lesbian and was quite happy to live like that for the rest of my life. However things change, and I realized one thing. It was never about the gender of the person that I fall in love with, Its the person. I never felt attracted to men, in fact I find men in general other than my partner strange looking and quite unapealing. I cant explane it. I just never found men attractive till I met my partner.  It just goes to show that you never know who is going to come along and who is going to catch your eye. Men or woman love has nothing to do with gender, but who captures your heart.

But I must admit the equality of sexuallity has come along way since I was 16 and that was only 16 years ago. I can remember the term lesbian being tossed around as an insult and people were to be shunned if you were even thought of as being gay or lesbian. Most of the time I can remember being taunted and pushed around by girls and guys for being attracted to the same gender.  I had a best friend that was male, and he was classed as weird as well.  But I will say that there was no attraction on my part towards him. He was good looking, sweet, kind, funny and romantic, everything a girl would want. I never liked playing with the girls teams, I prefered to play with the boys and pushing the limits of what I could do. Ok I admit it, in most of my relationships I was the top. I had to become stronger, to survive , to not alow the hurt and the anger of people to touch me.  Now its the awareness of people that has alowed people to be people.

I can say if my child comes to me and says I am gay or I am lesbian, I will take pride in that, since they have the strength to come out and the trust in me to tell me, and I will love them no matter what.